I was very reclusive in my youth. I joked around about drinking and partying and such, in the fashion of Cheech and Chong. I discovered after a while that I was merely trying to “fit in”. I have since discovered that I don’t have to fit in to any particular niche. I am who I am. People can accept me or not accept me, but there are two things about me that never change over time. I am honest. I speak my mind. Not many people can handle that trait. It comes from having been through a lot of hell, much I do not really discuss, but when I hear people talk as if their pain is the only one that matters, I can come unglued.
There are different types of suffering and abuse in this world. I know it from a place no one should ever have had to experience it–at home. I am currently writing a book on this, but for those of you who follow my bullying blogs, I don’t see how we can possibly stop bullying or get anything productive done in society by isolating ourselves from one another. The pain of the homosexual child being bullied is every bit as real and intense as the child who gets beaten, raped and abused at home–only to come to school to suffer the taunts of those bullies (and sometimes get assaulted even further).
Here is the point of my post. Anyone who has ever been bullied has experienced their own type of prison. That prison was the closest thing to Hell on Earth for many people. However, as intense as our pain is, we must unite with others who have been bullied and abused to make our voices heard as one voice. If not, we are failing every generation that follows. It does not matter if one is homosexual or not, or if one is from another country or not. What matters is that a united front stands a better chance of accomplishing anything than a divided front. We are failing our children if we do not address this as one voice, one people and one nation.
I am no activist and do not wish to be so now. However there is/are voice(s) out there that people will hear. You voice might prevent the next Jonesboro. Your voice might prevent the next Columbine. Your voice might stop the next child from taking matters into his or her own hands to address his/her abusers and ruin the rest of his/her life.
Where are you? This country needs you to get together and speak up. The children are depending on you. Forget the news networks. None of them talk much about this until something major happens! It is time to be proactive and not reactive. You do not have to have a child in public school to ask a school board what is being done to stop school violence and make them answer. People around the world must unite to stop bullying on a global scale as well.
It is time to quit comparing battle scars with each other (and with other groups and unite). My pain is no less or more intense than yours even if it is a different situation. Being separate does not solve anything. You will get told what you “want to hear” and then nothing will come of it, but if people who have been severely abused and bullied were to rally together–someone would listen and take notice.
I am going through a healing process myself–even after all these years. I am starting to see some things differently, yet some things are unchanged. I suppose we will all be evolving and changing throughout life. Give me time. I am getting there and so will you. We can work on this together, can we not? I do not feel that isolating ourselves as groups from one another is an option any longer.